If you ask the question, it’s only a matter of time before you get the answer.
Looking up to the sky at 2am on a drunken night I asked myself “Why do I need so much love and attention just to feel good about myself?”
Finding the answer to that question was the journey that changed my life.
Long story short, I eventually realized that I needed that much attention and validation because I wasn’t doing anything meaningful with my life.
Questions can be so powerful, but we tend to only ask the shitty questions.
“Why is the world against me?”
“Why are people so stupid?”
“Why am I so ugly?”
These are shitty questions that won’t lead anywhere. We need to ask ourselves the real deep questions; the questions that will change us once we know the answers.
These are some of the questions that have changed my life. I ask myself these questions every once and a while and they reignite the fire inside of me and put everything into perspective.
What would it take for me to die happy?
This question gets right down to the heart of the matter. Yes, we are all going to die. Do you want to have regrets, or happy memories?
Ask yourself this question and start moving in that direction instead of wandering aimlessly.
What are my core values?
What values do you hold dear? What are the concepts, characteristics, and themes that you want to live your life by?
If you don’t know the most important values in your life then you won’t be able to live in integrity. Your core values will act as your compass, but first you need to sit down and figure out what they are.
What energizes me and what drains me?
When you are around people you might notice that even if you are in a bad mood, the people you enjoy being around can immediately give you a boost. Those are the people who energize you.
You probably also have people that suck the energy out of you like a vampire every time they show up. Those people drain you.
Most things either drain or energize you. This doesn’t just go for people: environments, situations, activities, music, the list goes on. Figure out the things that give you that boost and bring more of those into your life.
What is my ideal day?
If you can answer this question, then you are already half way to living the life of your dreams. A good life is just a string of good days.
Figure out what you would want your ideal day to look like: where do you wake up? Who is with you? How do you spend your morning? Where do you go to work?
Split your day into morning, afternoon, and night. Get as detailed as possible in your imagination. Once you have an image of your ideal day you won’t be able to help but move towards it.
These are some of the questions that I ask myself every once and while. These questions will help guide you to a life that is meaningful to you.
When we ask shitty questions, we get shitty answers.
So what happens when we ask life-changing questions?