On frequent occasions throughout the day, we encounter situations that make us frustrated, angry and resentful. During these times, we blame the other individuals or external forces. We feel they are the source of our ill feelings. They made us feel this way.
We often think, without these people in our lives, we’d be better off.
When you squeeze an orange, naturally orange juice comes out. Why does it come out? Because that is exactly what is housed inside that delicious rind.
Let us think of our bodies as individual little oranges.
When people take jabs at us, poke us and make us feel frustrated, resentful or angry, it isn’t them that make us feel those feelings.
Like the orange, we already hold those feelings inside ourselves. The jabs from the world accentuate the feelings we inherently possess.
We allow feelings of frustration, anger, and resentment to live deep within us and lay dormant until the world is able to poke it out of us.
So then, how do we remedy our internal feelings? How do we take charge of our thoughts, feelings and actions and explode with happiness rather than anger?
We’ve come up with a few techniques to train our body and mind, shedding away any ill feelings that lay dormant.
A) Cancel Rule
In our many life experiences, we have encountered many jabs and pokes. In most cases, these scenarios are largely unavoidable. Sometimes, the people we spend the most time with are the worst for us.
While we advocate ways to change our circumstances, there are alternate methods without drastically cutting people out of our lives.
In our next dicey encounter, let us remember the Cancel Rule. When someone takes a jab we must rapidly and repeatedly yell ‘cancel’ inside our heads.
We cannot let their words penetrate our fleshy rind.
We must train our brain to cancel out their negative thoughts. We must never internalize them or let them sit inside our bodies.
Allowing such a scenario only adds to our pot of ill feelings. Use the Cancel Rule as a method to avoid internalization.
B) Deep Breathing
Our brains chase the easiest method to any scenario. When we encounter a less-than-stellar situation, we often get flustered and our breathing gets shallow.
Shallow breathing is a reaction when we’re angry or frustrated. The primary muscles, which facilitate breathing—diaphragm, abdomen, chest, and neck—are tense which limits free-flowing unconscious breathing.
As our negative thoughts continue to circle around our heads, our breathing inadvertently becomes shorter and quicker, only increasing the ill feelings.
When the world pokes at us, let us stop and think of our breathing. Let us fill our bellies up fully and slowly till our angry orange juice subsides.
Live long enough, and we’ll encounter our share of tough times. That’s okay. We all experience this from time-to-time. Ill feelings are relatively natural within us.
But imagine if we could control our thoughts, feelings and actions? Imagine if we could truly harness our ability to choose happiness over anger.
Well, we can. We believe this goal is relatively simple to achieve.
Through some diligent actions and positive thoughts, we are able change our internal orange juice.
Until next time, my beautiful readers,
Be bold, be free and love on.