If your happiness comes from anywhere but inside yourself, then it can be taken away. I'm not saying that you should never allow happiness to come from the things and people around you, what I am saying instead is that you should try to develop a baseline happiness that emanates from inside yourself.
That way when things go wrong in life—and they will, very often—you can take it in stride, learn from it, and become better because of it.
The goal is to raise our baseline happiness as high as possible, until it is relentless no matter what outside factors may be weighing at our feet.
Everyone Wants To Be Happy
This is a goal that many people never reach, mostly because they try to obtain happiness through money, power, respect, and material objects.
They don't realize that all of these things can be taken away, and basing the foundation of your happiness on these things instead of yourself, is akin to building a castle on sand.
Even basing your happiness on the love of another person can be dangerous, and unfair to them.
So what can we do to build up a baseline happiness that will remain intact through the trails of life?
Here are my three tips to cultivate a strong foundation and baseline to your happiness.
Only Spend Time On Things You Care About
The theme of today's society seems to be sacrifice.
You go to a school you don't care about to work on projects you don't care about to get a job you don't care about. All the while you are sacrificing your happiness.
You might spend time with people you don't care about, read things you don't care about (AKA: fear-driven news) and go to events you don't enjoy.
All of this is chipping away at your foundation of happiness and slowly lowering your baseline.
One of the best ways to cultivate a relentless happiness that will stand up to whatever life throws at you is to spend as much of your time as possible with the people you love, doing the things you love.
Treat Your Body With Respect
Whenever I'm in a bad mood I don't look to the situations in my life for an explanation, I immediately ask myself if I have been treating my body with respect lately.
It has been proven that their are very strong links between sleep, physical/mental diet, exercise and your moods.
If you don't ever move your body and get your endorphins going, and if you never get enough sleep and constantly take in junk food and junk mental content, you are going to have a hard time keeping good spirits.
I've come to learn that the way you treat your body affects your happiness more than almost any outside situation could.
If you eat a little better, sleep a little more, move your body a bit and watch the thoughts you allow into your mental space, your base level of happiness will jump by leaps and bounds.
Share The Positivity
The best way to cultivate something within yourself is to inspire it within someone else.
"Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared." -Buddha
When you consistently help others uplift their moods, it will have long lasting effects on your natural level of happiness.
This is why people can lower their stress levels simply by petting a cat. It feels good to make someone or something else feel good.
When you help others find their way to happiness where ever you can, you learn new paths and perspectives that will aid you in your own journey towards happiness.
Writing and researching for these articles has taught me so much that I never would have otherwise learned about happiness, but it's the responses I get when I've helped someone else that make me happiest.
If I can help a couple people every once and a while then I know that I have something to feel good about.
So don't spend your time doing things you don't care about, treat your body with respect, and then share whatever happiness you can.
You'll create a baseline of happiness for yourself that will withstand any outside circumstances.
And isn't that what we all want, just to be happy?