Sometimes I ask myself – “do you feel like you should be different? Or act differently? Or feel differently?” I don’t know if everyone asks himself or herself the same questions. Maybe you can quell my thoughts in the comments section below.
Recently, I’ve come to a realization. Everything that I have been through – the ups, the downs, the struggles and turmoil and everything in between – have made me the person I am today.
Regret is insignificant. No matter how hard we try, at this very moment, nothing about the past can be undone.
Regret is backward thinking
When you look to the past for answers, you are fighting an uphill battle. You desperately struggle as you battle the ravaging tides and the harsh winds.
Eckhart Tolle believes your egoic won’t let the past go because it needs it to feel alive. Your egoic mind wants to feel significant so it latches onto the past.
It keeps you living and thinking backward. It holds you in a troubled state. Your relationships, your work, and worst of all, yourself, crumble as you’re suspended in ‘regret thought-processes.’
The more you dwell in the past, the stronger your egoic mind grows. Like a feral animal, the more meat you give, the more it wants.
Present is forward-thinking
This very moment is all we have left. This very moment is the only one that can be changed, cherished and adored.
Even as write this, moments pass. The less I regret, the less I dwell, the more seamlessly the present moment passes.
There is little time to regret. In this very moment, there is only time to be content.
Be grateful that you are alive and breathing. Be content with the ability to think clearly and feel wholly.
Any room for future thinking?
Future thinking will also ruin you. Future thinking is just as toxic as regret.
Currently the future does not matter. Even as you begin to say the word fu-ture that first syllable is forever lost in the past.
That syllable should be let go, just as the future should.
The Love Exercise
There is no room for regret in this moment. Instead, spend a little time just being. Spend some time appreciating the person you are – maybe it’s your hair, eyes, or your brain.
Or pat yourself on the back for a small win – maybe it’s your first day sticking to a new diet or maybe you made it an entire day without having a cigarette.
This is an exercise I frequently do to avoid regret. The idea occurred to me after reading Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant.
He was at the point of killing himself because of all the common pressures that plague us – lack of love, security, support and freedom – until one day he decided to look into the mirror and say “I love you” over and over again.
He cured himself through positive reinforcement. I find that the same works with regret. Spend time today, and every single day, to giving yourself trying the Love Exercise.
Soon you will regret less and your egoic mind will detach. You will begin to love the person you are. You will begin to appreciate the present moment.
I wish nothing but amazing vibes to all our readers. I know whatever plagues you – whether regret, pain, or the future – you will overcome it.
And if you need a little push along the way, 2HelpfulGuys is here for anything.
Until next time my beautiful readers,
Be bold, be free and love on.