When I moved out of my parents house this year, it was a scary process. My end goal was to live on my own and start to manage my own life, but every step of the way I faced obstacles I didn't anticipate. It had to be in our budget, it had to allow pets and it had to be close enough to all three of our work places.
After painstaking efforts to find somewhere that met all the criteria we had to gather all of our information and convince the landlords that we were the best tenants.
Finally we got the place and moved in, I thought it was all sunshine from there.
But boy was I wrong.
We had trouble getting the internet working, paying bills for the first time, figuring out groceries and a hundred other obstacles. To this day at least one house related obstacle pops up per week.
Right now, here at 2HelpfulGuys, we are in the middle of writing a book. I can already imagine the hundreds of hurdles that we are going to have to conquer.
Nothing you do will ever come without an obstacle or two so here are my tips to help you push through them and accomplish your goals.
Obstacles are a part of life.
The first thing that will help you push through these pesky obstacles is realizing that obstacles are unavoidable.
They are going to pop up, you can't stop it. Even if you anticipate as many obstacles as you can, you are still going to run into a few nasty surprises along the way.
For your own sanity, it's best that you become friends with obstacles.
Use obstacles to help you improve.
By definition an obstacle will help you improve and grow. If you didn't need to grow to get past the obstacle, then it wouldn't be an obstacle. It would just be another walk in the park.
When you realize that every obstacle matures your abilities and your drive, you will begin to become excited to face them.
Relish the opportunity to conquer something. It will only lead to more victories.
Break down your obstacles.
When you first encounter an obstacle it is almost always daunting. When you see a mountain from far away you think to yourself "It must be impossible to climb to the top! Look how high it is!"
But when you get closer you start to see the individual paths you can hike. You see it broken down into details that are easier to conquer one by one.
Do this with every obstacle you face. Break it down into small bite size pieces and start chewing.
Never give up.
Some people say Edison tried up to ten thousand different prototypes for the light bulb. Even though the first nine thousand nine hundred and ninety-nine didn't work, he refuse to say that he ever failed.
“I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.” -Thomas Edison
This is the way you need to think. Every time you try something that doesn't work you are getting closer to finding what does work.
I've learned that nothing you try will ever work the first time. Or maybe you're lucky and you can get a hole in one. I never can.
Learning to be okay with being wrong is the most important skill you will ever gain.
Keep being wrong until you find what is right. Just make sure you don't give up.
As always, I'll see you next Friday.
With Love, Steven Farquharson, 2HelpfulGuys