What is a good life? Without getting too philosophical, I think a good life is only based on a few rules. There are too many rules in life. I’m told to stand up straight, act a certain way; don’t use the salad fork for the steak.
What do you mean?
A FORK IS A FORK!
Amidst all the criticisms how do you live a good life? To be honest, I don’t know. But, here’s where I start:
Every single day, I insert a reason to laugh. As children we laugh about 300 times a day. As an adult, that number is reduced to a meager 7.
How did we go from 300 to 7?
Did we cross some bridge of agony and now here we are: Mindless drones that wake up, go to work, participate in office gossip, watch Breaking Bad, and then sleep and die?
Laughter is really hard as an adult. It must be, right? Going from 300 to 7? There must have been some sort of life-changing traumatic event that occurred between childhood and adulthood.
We need to get back to our childhood roots. We need to laugh more. Start here:
Standup – Dave Chappelle, Louis C.K. Gabriel Iglesias
T.V. Shows – Blue Mountain State, Brooklyn Nine-Nine, The Office
Movies- Anchorman, Happy Gilmore
YouTube – Our Own Gentlemen’s Corner (no list would be complete without it)
2) Be Grateful
Start your day with gratefulness. Before I get out of bed, every morning, I say ‘thank you.’ The simple-ness of living often gets taken for granted.
“But I’m drowning in debt. I have no friends. My family hates me.”
Even if it seems like you have nothing to be grateful for, there is always something. You can still breathe. You can still come up with ideas. You can still walk and eat and live.
3) Never go to bed angry
I seldom get angry, but when it happens I make sure to deal with it immediately. Address it with the other and with yourself.
Your ego will not let it escape your thoughts. Cast your ego away. Allow those angry thoughts to float away into the wind.
Ask yourself, ‘how much does this matter?’
More often than not, it doesn’t.
Ending the day with anger sets the tone for your next day. Those thoughts fester in your sleep and you wake up with them, fresh in your head. Those thoughts will weigh you down.
Apologize or let it go completely. It’s not worth wasting your life over any problem.
For me, I know everything will be fine if I follow these consistently. And maybe, I can laugh, be grateful for the advice and shrug it off the next time someone tells me that I’m using the wrong fork.
Be bold, be free, and love on.