They say you should be yourself.
I'm not sure who they are but I'm starting to think that they are on to something.
Every time you act like someone you aren't or do something you don't want to just to appease someone, you get a little bit further away from who you are.
Everyone agrees that you should be yourself. There are thousands of quotes and motivational pictures depicting this. No one would ever tell you "Be more like someone else."
So why is it people still spend so much of their time doing things they don't want to, and traveling down a path that isn't right for them?
It's because of fear. They are afraid that what they want in their heart won't work out.
Afraid that if they take the leap there won't be anything there to catch them.
They let fear push them into a corner.
I hate that word. I encourage you to throw it out of your vocabulary.
Whenever you are using this word it's because you're thinking about something that you don't want to do, but for some reason feel like you have to.
I should go to university. I should get a normal job. I should settle down.
This word is a virus that you have because you've been surrounded by it your whole life. You parents, teachers, peers and society have all instilled their own "shoulds" into you.
After writing that word so many times it looks alien to me. I hope it looks alien to you as well.
Every time this word appears in your life I want you to think very carefully about how it got there and if you really need it.
I would encourage you instead to replace all of your shoulds with coulds.
Could is a word that I can get behind. It allows you to imagine possibilities.
When you are thinking of a could, you are allowing yourself to believe in something that you want.
I could start that business I've been thinking about. I could talk to that cute cashier. I could travel around Europe.
It's a much more useful word.
Rid yourself of the shoulds and start thinking in coulds.
You'll explore more of who you are and less of who other people want you to be.