It seems to me that everyone has a double personality. Everyone seems to be hiding who he or she really is. People are afraid to be judged and scrutinized. People seem to put on a mask, a façade, to hide themselves from the rest of the world. Everyone has a certain way of acting in front of their family, friends, co-workers, managers, acquaintances and strangers.
I’m equally guilty of this, although I feel I am at a lesser capacity. I feel like I am the same person in public, as I am around my house in my underwear.
Am I different? I don’t know. I try to act the same with everyone. That way, there are no unpleasant surprises and miscommunication. What you see is what you get. I find it easier to live one life, rather than a series of multiple ones, catering to different audiences.
Why do people lead these multiple lives?
As mentioned, I think because the majority of people are afraid of not fitting in. Everyone wants everyone to love them, so people cater to each other. They pretend to be something, or like something, or say something out of the ordinary.
I was guilty of this. I had a mid-mid-life crisis already. I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted. I tried to desperately fit in with everyone. Said the right things, liked the right things, acted the right way.
But when I came home, I felt hollow, almost like an alien, different. I spent all day being someone else and it started taking a toll on me. It started to change me into something I didn’t like.
Live life like there is a sign above your head
I like to imagine that there is a sign above my head at all times. The sign reads out to the rest of the world exactly I am. It reveals everything I am to the rest of the world.
What does your sign say? Mine says something like:
1. Falls for girls too easy
2. Has a minimum of 50,000 thoughts a day
4. Sometimes gets deeply upset
5. Tries to be positive, no matter what the situation
6. Used to be a heavy partier and drinker.
7. Hurts people sometimes
There’s more but I’ll spare the details for fear of making it sound like a dating profile. But imagine, if everything about you was displayed above your head?
How do you choose to live your life? How would everyone react to you? Realistically, being you comes at no extra expense to yourself.
There are six billion people in this world. You are not meant to fit into everywhere. Everyone is not meant to like you. In fact, most people will hate you. They will reject your ideas, your feelings, your thoughts and your goals.
They will try to fight you, hurt you, and push you down. However, despite this, what do you have to lose? These people still exist if you pretend to be someone else.
Save yourself the trouble, the anxiety, and stress and be yourself. Show your true colors. Appreciate who you are and stand up for what you think is right.
Above all else, aim for positive energy, aim to help each other, and aim to make others happy. These are tasks that are often overlooked. Give someone a compliment today and I promise you it will make that person (and you) feel amazing.
Speaking for myself, I don’t want my public sign saying anything terrible for the world to see. Live your life in same way you are living, when you’re at home in your underwear.
Be bold, be free, and love on.