I am not a Zen master. I do not see myself as having no problems. In fact, I feel like I have a ton of problems. But that’s a part of life. Life is filled with problems. The other day, someone said to me, “Leroy, you’re always happy. You seem so at peace, so put together all the time, just so happy. How do you do it?”
That statement caught me off guard. Inside my own head, there are constant battles and struggles brewing and festering. There’s always something that I think about.
But why did that person get that notion from me? I feel far from it. But I must be putting off some sort of vibe for someone to say that. There must be some sort of energy that I am releasing that others are picking up on.
Well, even though I have a lot of inner struggles, I try to be the most positive, happy person I can be, outside. This is not a façade, or fake, or fabricated. I just don’t want to bring anyone else down.
I feel like I deal with problems effectively. I feel like I am control (sometimes). Here’s how I deal with it.
1) Realize that it’s not a big deal.
Some problems are just not as big as they are at the time it occurs. They get inflated within your own thoughts. They fester and grow until it consumes you. Little problems become big problems.
I try to think of EVERY problem as a little problem. No matter how small (or large) it may seem, approach your problem as if it were small. Heading towards a problem with that mindset automatically flicks your brain towards an optimistic view.
You feel like you can manage it, overcome it and stand on top of the mountain, victorious.
2) Distract yourself
It's a surefire solution to get your mind of a problem. Simply do something else. Not just anything, but something you really enjoy. Something you really enjoy is when you think about nothing else, but that activity.
For me, that is working out. I find it incredibly therapeutic. For a few hours everyday, I forget everything and slip into thoughts of the blood rushing into my muscles. Thoughts of muscles contracting and relaxing fill my head as I pull and push more and more weight.
Find something that you love, and dedicate time towards it, every single day. It gives your brain a break from all the inner turmoil.
3) Everything will be fine in the end.
Everything always seems to work itself out. I don’t really know how it works or what force moves it to work, but everything always seems to work itself out.
Problems always come and go, and no matter how big or small they are, there is always a resolve. Either you deal with it or some force in nature (call it Science, God, or the Universe) throws its’ helpful hand in the mix.
If you worry about the problem, the bigger it becomes. You keep it in the forefront of your mind. You are the only one letting the problem still rear its’ ugly head. The more you think about the problem, the larger it becomes.
Problems do not go away unless you stop thinking about it. I don’t believe in miracles, but I do believe in the universe.
The more you think about your problems, the more problems seem to surface. Think positive thoughts, put on a brave face and spread a positive message (You can even share this blog on your social media).
How do you cope with problems? Please leave a comment below. My readers and I would love to hear your input! Thank you for reading, liking, and sharing.
Be bold, be free, and love on.