I have big news. I am going to be moving out soon. Most likely on the first of august. It's a big step in my life that I am very excited about.
Whenever big changes are happening in our lives we tend to reflect on what we are leaving behind. I've realized that I have a greater appreciation for things while looking back than I did in the actual moment.
I have a love/hate relationship with my cats, but now that I am moving I know that I will miss them. I don't always appreciate my family, but now that I know I won't be seeing them as often, I consciously put in more effort. It makes me wonder why I didn't have this attitude the whole time.
It seems we appreciate everything more in retrospect.
The aim of life is appreciation; there is no sense in not appreciating things; and there is no sense in having more of them if you have less appreciation of them. -Gilbert K. Chesterton
I want to give my family and the people around me the appreciation they deserve. I came up with an exercise to keep things in perspective and encourage myself to show my gratitude to those who deserve it.
Imagine you are retired.
Your memories seem so distant, you've let go of any grudges and you reminisce every once in a while in a nostalgic state. Even the small moments, laughing with a co-worker forty years ago, are cherished gems that have so much emotion attached you could shed a tear just thinking about them.
You laugh to yourself when you realize that so many of the things you were so preoccupied with, weren't really that important.
You wish you could reach out to certain people, you wish you could tell them how much they meant to you.
Are there people in your life you aren't appreciating enough?
Visualizing myself being older and looking back helps to keep the important things in perspective.
The more I think about it the more I realize that the memories I will cherish the most are the times I exchange gratitude and appreciation with the people around me. I don't want to look back and feel like I didn't give my whole heart to the people around me.
If you feel the same, tell the people in your life that you appreciate them.