I’ve decided that I want a beard for September (school time). Naturally, I have to start growing it now. My facial hair grows tremendously slow. I’ve been growing it since March and I think it looks great. Why am I bringing this up? Well recently, someone made a comment that made me think. “That’s a disgusting beard. You look like Bin Laden.” It someone discouraged me but, regardless, I am keeping the beard.
No matter what you do in life, whether it has to do with work, school, or even your hobbies, you are going to run into haters. You are going to run into people that are going to put you down and try to hold you back from reaching your true potential.
They won’t understand what you’re doing or why you’re doing it and will attack you for it. They will make you feel like shit to the point that you start doubting yourself.
For a brief moment in time, I was actually contemplating shaving my beard. I stared in the mirror and thought about it. But why would I set myself back based on one persons’ comment.
You have to realize that nobody can make you feel terrible without your consent. You are in control of how you feel. Do not let these people hinder your progress.
You life is too important and valuable to let the naysayers get to you.
Haters Will Always Be There
As long as you keep changing and improving your life there will be haters that will somehow try to hold you down. They want to keep you down at their level. They can’t bear to see you succeed or progress.
There really is nothing you can say or do to stop them from hating. Arguing with haters is like arguing with a brick wall. You will get nowhere. You cannot change another persons’ opinion unless they want to change first.
You just have to ignore them and move on. Nod and smile at them. In your head, acknowledge their comment and throw it away. Hold no bearing to it.
Of course it is always important to be open-minded and try to see things from a different perspective, if it is constructive criticism. But if it is just blatant malicious attacks, spare no mental energy on it.
You have the power to determine how you feel every second of every day. Everyone gets haters, but the difference between winning and losing in this situation, is how you decide to handle it.
Arguing with a hater is giving the person too much credit. You are trying to validate or justify your standpoint. You do not need to justify your viewpoint with a hater.
You can’t have a logical debate with them because their hate is coming from an insecure, illogical place. And if you try to attack them back, it turns into a bigger argument that solves nothing, and in the end you still feel crappy.
In the end, what it comes to down to is this. There will be a lot of positive supportive people in your life. There will also be haters in your life. That is the sad truth and the harsh reality.
Do not let these negative people consume you. Don’t let other peoples’ words and actions determine whom you are and what you’re going to do. Live for yourself. What people think about you is their reality, not yours.
I will continue to grow this beard until I have determined when I am done with it (if ever). How do you deal with the haters in your life? Leave a comment below, my readers and I would love to hear from you.
Be bold, be free and love on.