I started this blog on a whim. I was at school and something clicked. Maybe I could publish my thoughts on the Internet. I have problems. Maybe I can use those problems to help people. Maybe I can impact someone. I thought that I was the only one experiencing these problems. However, I discovered today that I was wrong. Everyone has thoughts swirling around their heads at all times. Everyone has problems, makes new problems and dwells on them.
I am not alone. Something inside me finds ease with that thought.
But at the same time, I don’t want to have problems. I don’t want you to have problems. The problems are always there. We make problems for ourselves. Our brain voice manifests them. We dwell and falter.
My solution is anchored in breathing. Do nothing but focus on your breathing. Feel the breath circulate through your body. Your stomach expands with air, your lifeblood, and exhale everything. Exhale your problems, your thoughts, your feelings, everything. Just focus on the cadence of your breath.
I made a new friend today who wants to fight (boxing, particular) in New York or Vegas, or California.
She has problems.
She’s not progressing with her trainer. Where will she live? How will she pay for her expenses? How is she going to eat and work and box and live?
The fear breeds and more problems are birthed. I have the same. Where will live when I move to California? How will I support myself? How am I going to eat and work and live? I find comfort knowing that other people have these thoughts. I am not alone.
I told her what I do. I breathe. I allow myself to dip into my body. I allow myself to focus on just that and nothing else.
Well, firstly, it works for me. It may not work for you. But here is my rationale.
Breathing is something you do everyday. It is done unconsciously and something that stays constant with you.
When you are thinking about problems, it is because you are thinking of nothing else. Your present thought is your problems. I invite you to return to your breath.
Thinking about your breathing shifts the thought from problems to your breath. If you are thinking about your breath, you are not thinking about your problems and vice versa. Breathing is a constant practice with you. It is easy to shift your focus towards that when you need a distraction.
This method seems daunting. But with practice, it gets easier and easier. Once again, feel your stomach expand and exhale.
Slowly, with time, you improve. I focus on my breathing and my mind wanders towards nothingness. For a brief period, my problems are behind me. There is only black, as my stomach expands.
I had a whole another post written for today and this was done on a whim. That girl surfaced something in me that needed to be said.
We all have problems. Unfortunately, that is a finite part of life. But when everything seems terrible, daunting and endless, I remember to just breathe.